Help kids develop a sense of morality that depends on internal self-control, not on rewards or punishments.
Kids are capable of being spontaneously helpful and sympathetic. But experimental studies have shown that kids are less likely to help others if they are given material rewards for doing so.
Other research has shown that kids are more likely to develop an internal sense of right and wrong if they are raised with authoritative, inductive discipline-an approach that underlines rational elucidations and ethical consequences.
For example, kids are more likely to internalize moral ideologies when their parents talk to them about how wrong doing affects other people-inducing empathy and feelings of guilt (Hoffman and Saltzein 1967)