Parenting Tips

“The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing.” -Albert Einstein

Dear Parent(s)  12th July

Topic: Raising smart, curious children (Contd.)

Parenting tip 4: Ask questions

Your demonstration of curiosity can be a terrific example to your children as it will encourage them to have discussions with you. Simply by asking ‘why’ from them will flare up their curiosity and thus aid them in widening their horizons of knowledge and academic excellence.

Parenting tip 5: Be willing to talk

It is often seen that parents dampen the curiosity of their child by not talking to them when they come up with some question. Your responses such as “I’ll tell you later”, or “Not now, I’m busy” drown the quest of the child. All you have to do is be available to your child and your availability will facilitate your child in pursuing the love of learning.

“The whole art of teaching is only the art of awakening the natural curiosity of young
minds for the purpose of satisfying it afterwards”. -Anatole France

Dear Parent(s)  5th July

Topic: Raising smart, curious children

Curiosity is one asset that can benefit your child and help him/her do well academically. It is the quest to explore and try new things that help the children grow up intellectually stimulated. This love for learning not only makes them happy and optimist but successful as well. There are a number of things that you as a parent can do to ignite curiosity and a love of learning in your children and thus help them to be academically motivated.

Parenting tip 1:

Be a role model in front of your children by discovering things yourself and this will motivate them and kindle love of learning in them. You can be seen reading, finding answers and doing other such things. As your children watch and learn from you, they will most certainly pick up this habit of yours.

Parenting tip 2:

Embrace the motto “we try new things”. Whether it is a new meal, a new sport, a new holiday destination, or a new way of cleaning the house, let your children know that you want to try new things and discover things you previously did not know much about.

Parenting tip 3:

Demonstrate to your children to find answers by themselves. Lend support to them by telling them references, digital resources, or other useful sources. When your children ask you a question, do not curb their curiosity by answering them directly rather encourage them to explore and find out the same by themselves.

Raising cooperative children is the key to a peaceful and pleasant home-life. -­‐ Anonymous

Dear Parent(s)  28th June

Topic: Cooperation

Strategy 1: Praise for effort

If you have approached your child in a positive way and he/she has responded positively then it is important not only to pay attention to your child’s effort when he/she is complying with your wishes but also to praise him/her for his/her efforts. Let your child know that you are aware of the fact that he/she is being cooperative. Acknowledge and verbalize your appreciation.

Strategy 2: Appreciate their contribution

Children bloom on being appreciated and respected. Therefore pay attention and express your appreciation to your children for not only complying with your request and that too doing it in a cooperative manner. This action of yours will impact them in a cooperative manner and they will remember how they like felt being a positive part of what happens in their home and in their lives. BEING COOPERATIVE WILL FEEL GOOD TO THEM.

“Empathy depends not only on one’s ability to identify someone else’s emotions but also on one’s capacity to put oneself in the other person’s place and to experience an appropriate emotional response” -Charles G. Morris

Dear Parent(s)  21st June 19

Help kids develop a sense of morality that depends on internal self-control, not on rewards or punishments.

Kids are capable of being spontaneously helpful and sympathetic. But experimental studies have shown that kids are less likely to help others if they are given material rewards for doing so.

Other research has shown that kids are more likely to develop an internal sense of right and wrong if they are raised with authoritative, inductive discipline-an approach that underlines rational elucidations and ethical consequences.

For example, kids are more likely to internalize moral ideologies when their parents talk to them about how wrong doing affects other people-inducing empathy and feelings of guilt (Hoffman and Saltzein 1967)

“The most important thing that parents can teach their children is how to get along without
them.” – Frank A. Clark

Dear Parent(s)  14th June 19

Parenting can be wonderful and rewarding, but it can also be difficult and unpleasant. Most parents experience moments (or months or years) of feeling flabbergasted. There’s a lot of information available as to what we “should” do to raise “good” kids. One of them is Taking Action!

Can you name at least three non-parent adults who are positive role models for your child?

Look around you and you will find such people. Let your child interact with such adults as these adults outside our families can be hidden treasures when it comes to helping us. Research shows that all family members can benefit from kids having these kinds of supportive relationships. You can help nurture them by introducing your children to people you like and respect and support positive relationships that develop naturally.

To make your children capable of honesty is the beginning of education. – John Ruskin

Dear Parent(s)  07th June 19

Encouraging Honesty

Following are a few strategies that can help to deal with lying and encourage honesty in a child.

• Calmly name the issue but don’t demand confessions

Don’t ask questions about behaviour, if you already know the answer! Trying to force your child to confess is rarely effective,as most children will lie to protect themselves when put on the spot. Thus criticizing your child may lead to defensiveness and more lying.

• Try to understand why your child is finding it hard to be honest

It’s important to reason out why your child feels the need to lie. Once you’ve identified potential reasons for your child’s fibbing, encourage them to talk about their worries by calmly raising the issue in a supportive and earnest manner.

• Teach your child about why lying doesn’t work

Teach your child about the importance of telling the truth and how lying can stop people believing them even when they are being honest. A good way to do this is to read books with your child that gives a strong message that lying is not helpful.

• Set a good example

We must remember that children learn more through watching other people’s behaviour than through any other form of direct guidance or discipline

• Praise honesty

Always be encouraging and positive whenever your child tells the truth and praise him/her for being truthful.

“Neither comprehension nor learning can take place in an atmosphere of anxiety” -Rose F.
Kennedy

Dear Parent(s)  31st May 19

Managing anxious children

Various strategies to deal with anxiety of the chid are-

Pay attention to your child’s feelings.
• Stay calm when your child becomes anxious about a situation or event.
• Recognize and praise small accomplishments.
• Don’t punish mistakes or lack of progress.
• Be flexible and try to maintain a normal routine.
• Modify expectations during stressful periods.
• Plan for transitions (For example, allow extra time in the morning if getting to school is difficult).

“If you can control your behavior when everything around you is out of control, you can model for
your children a valuable lesson in patience and understanding…and snatch an opportunity to
shape character.” ― Jane Clayson Johnson

Dear Parent(s)  24th May 19

If your child is testing you through a temper tantrum, or being angry or speaking disrespectfully to
you, it is best if you leave the room or tell the child you that you will talk to him/her after an hour or
so or you will be in the next room if he wants to “Try again.

Thus as a matured individual you are expected not to leave in anger or defeat as it would encourage
your child to indulge in such behaviour more often for his/her wish fulfilment. So it’s important to
have a calm composure as after initial discord or unpleasantness it may lead to positivity and later
help in resolving the matter amiably.

“If you want children to keep their feet on the ground, put some responsibility on their
shoulders.” – Abigail Van Buren

Tips for Weaning Kids off Online Games

Dear Parent(s)  17th May 19

Strategy #2

Cast a Vision for Mentorship

Encourage and provide opportunities to your teens to be role models for their younger siblings.
Teens should be made aware that their younger brothers and sisters look up to and need them to
share their skills in things they’re good at – sports, schoolwork, music and other areas.

As a parent you can recommend your older teen to help his/ her siblings with homework. They can
spent quality time together by undertaking joint bicycle ride together or just simply team up for
preparing an evening meal.

Tips for Weaning Kids off Online Games

Dear Parent(s)  10th May 19

Strategy #1

Don’t Give Up on Family Time

It’s common for kids to want to spend time alone or with their friends instead of their family. This is one way in which they’re developing their independence, which is important and necessary and an appreciable quality.

But it should not be handled in a way that the children feel that they are completely disconnected from the family. Even if your child seems uninterested in family time or does not heed to the request/command or counseliling of yours……. Just don’t give up. Keep tempting him or her to play that board game, grab a quick bite or watch a favourite family TV show with you. Still if kids don’t join in family activities, they are aware that despite their disinterest and unwillingness to participate they are still welcome and can join whenever they like or wish.

Tips for Weaning Kids off Online Games

Dear Parent(s)  10th May 19

Strategy #1

Don’t Give Up on Family Time

It’s common for kids to want to spend time alone or with their friends instead of their family. This is one way in which they’re developing their independence, which is important and necessary and an appreciable quality.

But it should not be handled in a way that the children feel that they are completely disconnected from the family. Even if your child seems uninterested in family time or does not heed to the request/command or counseliling of yours……. Just don’t give up. Keep tempting him or her to play that board game, grab a quick bite or watch a favourite family TV show with you. Still if kids don’t join in family activities, they are aware that despite their disinterest and unwillingness to participate they are still welcome and can join whenever they like or wish.

“Education is that component which brings in a meaningful relationship between the happenings
around us and how our senses experience them.” ― Tito Rajarshi Mukhopadhyay

Dear Parent(s)  5th May 19

Parenting can be delightful and rewarding and at the same time it can also be challenging and nasty.

Kids need emotional and physical safety in equal measures. The challenges parents face in providing
them the same varies from child to child and the kind of environment that surrounds the child.
There’s a lot of information around us as to how and what we “should” do to raise “good” kids.

A secret to keeping kids safe it is important to communicate with your child and if you’re
communicating, you’ll know what’s going on in your child’s life and where they might need some
help, or if they might need someone to look out for them. Children are more likely to make safe
choices if lots of people with positive caring influence are around them. Also they can get help and
support whenever needed.

A second but the most important aspect is physical safety measures undertaken when they’re
young or setting rules about driving (when they’re teens) out of love for them and a desire for them
to have positive experiences, rather than out of fear.

“It’s not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It’s our job to raise
children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless.” ― L.R. Knost

Dear Parent(s)  26th April 19

Parenting can be wonderful and rewarding, but it can also be difficult and unpleasant. Most parents
experience moments (or months or years) of feeling overwhelmed. There’s a lot of information
available as to what we “should” do as parents to raise “good” kids.

Parenting Strategy # 3

It’s a human nature to feel happy when you know you are valued and valuable. Parents can show
their kids that they are valued at home by giving them increasing levels of responsibility. Their sense
of responsibility can be taken a step further by engaging them in community service, whether in the
neighbourhood at school or somewhere else. Kids may not realize it, but having responsibilities is
good for them.

The most important thing that parents can teach their children is how to get along without them.
– Frank A. Clark

Dear Parent(s)  19th April 19

Parenting can be wonderful and rewarding, but it can also be difficult and unpleasant. Most parents experience moments (or months or years) of feeling overwhelmed. There’s a lot of information available as to what we “should” do as parents to raise “good” kids.

Parenting Strategy #2

Take Action! Can you name at least three non-parent adults who are positive role models for your child? It can be a kind music teacher who pushes 20 minutes of practice a day and may be helping your child build confidence. Or maybe a strictteacher who pushes your child through the school hours but sees him/her as a responsible and reliable person.

Adults outside our families can be hidden treasures when it comes to helping us as a parent. Research shows that all family members can benefit from kids having the supportive relationships. So you can help nurture these relationships by introducing your child to people you like and respect and let these supporting positive relationships develop naturally.

“To a child’s innocent mind, a lack of warmth and smiles equals a lack of love.” – Anonymous

Dear Parent(s)  12th April 19

Parenting can be wonderful and rewarding, but it can also be difficult and unpleasant. Most parents experience moments (or months or years) of feeling overwhelmed. There’s a lot of information available as to what we “should” do as parents to raise “good” kids.

Parenting Strategy

Take Action! No two parents shower their love on their children in the same way. Some are more expressive as they reward their kids with lots of hugs, high-fives, and kind notes; on the other hand there are ones who are more stoic or reserved. So you need to devise your own way of showing your kids that you care for them. You may do so in the following ways-
• Spend time together in ways that fit your lifestyle.
• Try to make time for regular meals together, go for walks, and talk in the car/amusement parks/malls etc.
• Don’t strive to be a stereotype or an ideal parent; just do what works the best for you and your kids.

Child Discipline

Dear Parent(s)  5th April 19

Use Humour: Instead of scolding the child, use humour to resolve the concerns as a good laugh helps break the tension. Words like, we can work on this, this is nothing serious, can help break the barrier as well as help in disciplining the child.

Use Eye Contact: Eye contact brings out your intent and seriousness related to the concern/matter at hand so instead of calling out instructions from another room, it’s much better to walk into the room with the child and make sure that he/she is looking at you with full attention.

Walk Away: The message of your body language should be that you have full confidence that your child is going to comply with what you just said. If you walk back through the room and it hasn’t been done, give a warning of the consequence. Then, walk away.

Stop Talking About It. Use one word reminders and quit nagging, placating, lecturing or preaching. Ensure that your expectations are clear, concisely worded and the consequences are understood. If need be implement consequences dispassionately and without dialogue/discussion.

How To Make Your Child A Winner

Dear Parent(s)  29th Mar 19

The first trait we need to develop in our children is not to let the feeling of awe overcome them even when confronted with a person of exceptional stature. What one person has achieved can not only be equalled but also bettered if persisted with determination by them. The only thing they have to learn is to be able to draw a line between disrespect and being at ease in the presence of elders or
authority-figures. They would do well to respect authority but not fear it. There are rules, as in any
game, to be observed in the arena of life. So, let the children learn to play the game well.

To achieve this, children should be exposed to varied experience from early life. They should meet/read about eminent and successful people to be able to realize that there is nothing so great about someone, which is not within their reach. They will then be able to actualize their dreams. In addition to encouraging them to acquire knowledge from anywhere, including reading of books, they should be taken to places of interest to give them an idea of the physical world. Thus knowledge gives confidence and adds to the personality of the child.

Tips on Personality Development of the Child

Dear Parent(s)  15th Mar 19

• Do not scold child all the time for minor failures.
• Do not trouble the child constantly.
• Frequent use of bitter or harsh remarks should be avoided.
• Avoid the practice of preferring one child over the other and thereby neglecting the other.
• Do not belittle or disparage the child.
• Avoid prolonged separation of the child.
• Constant friction with the child or between the parents should not be expressed in front of the child.
• Never discourage the child.
• Do not praise your child always.
• Excessive discipline is also harmful.
• Repetitive or severe punishment should be avoided. The child should be given a change to rectify itself and punishment should be the last resort.
• Parents should not be over-ambitious regarding their children and they should not set goals for a child that is not in harmony with his intellectual endowment, capabilities, achievements and interests. This also puts a breach in the proper development of the child’s personality.

Appeasement does not have long-term effect

Dear Parent(s)  8th Mar 19

In order to keep the daily routine hassle-free, parents tend to please children. However, explicit pacification of the children and bowing to all their demands has only short-term gains.
In the process, children tend to lose respect for their parents. They start to look upon their parents as mere appeaser and need fulfiller. The parents themselves should not enter into a popularity contest as fulfilling all the demands of the children in no way implies that you love your child more than anyone else.
As the appeasement policy does not pay in the long run, therefore, the parents must develop the fearlessness of calling a spade a spade.

Affection

Dear Parent(s)  1st Mar 19

Affection can be defined as a gentle feeling of fondness or liking and it broadly includes loving, caring and tender emotional state. A child needs all these for the first from its parents then as he/she joins school the same feelings are expected from the teachers.