RESOLVING CONFLICTS

“A heart to resolve, a head to contrive, and a hand to execute” — Edward Gibbon

Any parent knows that as beautiful as the journey of child is, it’s certainly not without conflict. Experts revealed that parents most commonly fight with each other about money, followed by parenting/discipline, domestic responsibilities and feeling neglected.

The following ways will help in managing and overcoming disagreements about discipline, domesticity and other common arguments:

1. Punishment: Whether young or old, children are always testing limits and playing one parent against the other. Avoid such conflict by sitting down together during a quiet time to establish six to eight fundamental family rules and thereafter explain to your kids in a calm yet affirmative manner. You will be repeatedly asked whether you are serious about those rules but respond by telling them firmly “you know what the rules are.” 

2. Temper tantrums: Whether it is a toddler temper tantrum or an adolescent fit, your child’s underlying message is that you are denying him what he wants. Dealing with tantrums can often cause one parent to feel guilty or sympathetic and give in, while the other parent gets defiant and angry. In such a situation, you need to do balance sympathy with the educational message that life is not a bed of roses and no one gets what they want all the time.  3. Attention-demanding children: Working parents are often overwhelmed when they come home and immediately have to deal with attention-demanding children. The best approach to deal with this kind of situation is to teach your kids to do things on their own. 

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